18 Simple Truths Nobody Told Us While Growing Up

You know how when you were a little child you used to thinks that grown ups have the answers to all of your questions and how those answers would in fact reflect the ultimate truth and how life should be lived? Well, what you did not know then and probably a lot us us don’t know it now either, is that each and every one of us has a different set of beliefs and based on those beliefs we build our lives and our reality and what we usually do, is imposing our own set of beliefs on them.

This is a list of 18 simple truths that nobody shared with you while growing up, and it is based on my own beliefs, experiences and you don’t have to believe anything, ”no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense.” Buddha

1. With self love and acceptance comes real happiness

If you ask me, there is no greater gift you can give to yourself than the gift of self love.

“If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren’t even giving to yourself.” Barbara De Angelis

2. Judgments prevent us from seeing the good in people

 The moment we judge another human being, we are blocking ourselves from seeing beyond the labels we put on to these people, restricting ourselves from really knowing and seeing them for what they really are, and not for what we think they are. 

3. Gratitude equals happiness

Gratitude is one of the 12 activities that Sonja Lyubomirsky  talks about in her book, “The How of Happiness” , activity that is scientifically proven to help us achieve and attract more happiness into our lives.

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.” Melody Beattie

4. What other people think of you is none of your business

 Your reputation is not something you have control over. The more people you interact with, the more reputations you get. I know, quite funny - we can’t really control what other people think of us, and trust me, this has nothing to do with being a “good” or a “bad” person.

5.There are no limits to what we can achieve, only those we choose to impose on ourselves

“Don’t believe what your eyes are telling you. All they show is limitation. Look with your understanding, find out what you already know, and you’ll see the way to fly.” Richard Bach

6. When we do good, we feel good

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” The Dalai Lama

7. Time waits for no one

It does not. Time passes by so fast, and that is exactly why we must learn to treasure every single moment we spend on this beautiful Earth, to be present and engaged in everything we do, for time, once gone, is gone forever.

8. Wisdom never decreases by being shared

 Share your knowledge with the world, share your unique gifts and talents for it is in giving that we receive.

9. Love people, not things; use things, not people

Things come and go but people, once they’re gone, they’re gone forever and that is exactly we really have to pay close attention to how we treat everybody around us and to choose to always be kind, loving and respectful toward them.

10. Money does not equal happiness

If you love what you do, you will always find a way to earn money, but don’t you ever make money your end goal for you will never be happy if you do so.

I find the words of Wayne Dyer to really resonate with this: “When I chased after money, I never had enough. When I got my life on purpose and focused on giving of myself and everything that arrived into my life, then I was prosperous.”

11. Hard work does not equal success

We were raised to believe that if we work hard, very hard, we will become successful and we will afford many things that not so hard working people won’t be able to afford them, but that’s not always the case.

I know that it may sound a bit harsh, but I do agree with Bill Bowermann on this one:“The idea that the harder you work, the better you’re going to be is just garbage. The greatest improvement is made by the man or woman who works most intelligently.”

12. We know more than we think we do

“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves like locked rooms and like books that are written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will find them gradually, without noticing it, and live along some distant day into the answer”. Rainer Maria Rilke

13. You attract what you focus on

 What we focus on expands and what we resist persist! You don’t like something, don’t fight it, don’t resist it, don’t complain about it.

“You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.” Richard Buckminster Fuller

14. Don’t believe everything you think

Every time we choose to stress about the things we can’t change, the things we can change, the things we don’t want to change, we are in fact causing even more stress in our lives, keeping us even further away from thinking clearly and taking smart decisions.

“If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought.”Peace Pilgrim

15. Beliefs become self fulfilling prophecies

and “if you treat an individual as he is, he will remain how he is. But if you treat him as if he were what he ought to be and could be, he will become what he ought to be and could be.” Goethe

16. Don’t compare and don’t compete

 To compare yourself with others it’s toxic, unhealthy and damaging to your self-esteem and self image. Constantly trying to compete with others will drain so much energy out of you and the best thing you could do for yourself is to realize that: “True nobility it is not about being better than anyone else. It is about being better than you, used to be. “ Wayne Dyer

17.  Love everything, be attached to nothing,

knowing that: “attachment is the great fabricator of illusions; reality can be attained only by someone who is detached.” Simone Weil

18. It’s very healthy to talk openly about death

 Why should we do such a thing you may ask. Well, because: “A dying man needs to die, as a sleepy man needs to sleep, and there comes a time when it is wrong, as well as useless, to resist.” Stewart Alsop

Talking about it and not acting like it will never come our way, will help us live fuller lives,  will help us enjoy the moments we spend with the people we love even more, expressing our appreciation and gratitude toward them more often, and when the time will come for us or them to leave this planet, to do it with grace and serenity.

How many of these things were shared with you while growing up? Share your insights by commenting bellow or by posting your lovely comment on the PurposeFairy Facebook Page. And if you’ve enjoyed reading this post, press the share button 

Added by Luminita Saviuc on 11, April 2012

Top 5 Things to Have on Your New Year’s Resolutions List

The secret to living the life of your dreams is to start living the life of your dreams today, in every little way you possibly can. ~Mike Dooley

A brand new year is upon us, and just when we think that all the stress from the holiday season is over – that mad rush that kept us running around shopping, wrapping gifts, cooking and baking leaving quite the mess behind – we find ourselves thinking about New Year’s resolutions... and what a task that is because the easy part is making them, yet keeping them can bring an entire new set of stressors.  That’s not how you want to start your best year yet!

Before this amazing year ends, we can empower ourselves by replacing the restrictive and sometimes unrealistic expectations we impose on ourselves, which leave us drained with a feeling of self-loading when we fail to accomplish them. So, what if there were only one resolution to make, which would encompass all that you wish to attain?

SURRENDER! 

The secret of getting ahead is getting started. The secret to getting started is breaking your complex overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks and then starting on the first one.~Mark Twain

Yeap. That beautiful word is one that in and of itself will allow you to align your thoughts with your actions effortlessly.  What can surrendering do for all of us? Here are the top 5 things to have on you New Year’s resolutions list, ’resolutions’ that will turn into actual gifts that will help you fulfil your desires throughout your life.

1. Peace

The path to total peace both within and without is through complete surrender because in doing so, you put an end to opposing what is. Reconnect with the present moment!

2. Silence

Be still… your higher thoughts don’t require words. Whether you meditate, use journaling as a tool to “be with yourself”, or take a walk to take in all the beauty that surrounds you, you will be rewarded with messages from the Universe that will guide you as you align your thoughts with your actions.  In turn, that becomes your compass  to walk a path created by choice instead of default.

3. Freedom

Set yourself free from all that you have chosen to worry about, including those limitig beliefs that set us up for failure; hand them over to the Universe.  Of course there is an intrinsic need for personal responsibility; however, as long as you have truly surrendered, everything will fall into place and the struggle with having control over any given situation will also cease to exist.

4. Happiness

This is a state of mind that cannot be bought or found for that matter.  The key lies in embracing the present moment to its fullest and surrendering negative thoughts. When we put expectations on external things to make us happy, we are actually postponing our happiness which then leads to disappointment if what we believe will make us happy turns out not to do so. Remember that everything you need, you already have, even in spite of the twists and turns and mood changes that inevitably all of us experience at some point.

5. Feel Good

As mentioned above, outer circumstances come and go.  It is in you to decide to take them or leave them.  You can indeed be happy like a child whose innocence and knowledge of his/her reality comes from complete surrender to the present moment. When we acknowledge life events and focus on our inner strengths, we can finally pull away from the illusion that things, people or places are what makes us feel either good or bad. How liberating it is to know that this is something that you actually can control!

So celebrate the start of a new year and embrace it, knowing that when you surrender you are actually creating the life of your dreams – which in turn will become your new reality! Surrendering allows us to focus on what’s inside of us…now, as silly as this may sound, let’s bid farewell to 2012 with a simple gesture: make a fist and softly release the palm of your hand.  Now your body and mind are ready to receive unconditional love, true and lasting happiness, and above all, the ability to make a difference in your life as well as the lives of the people you touch.

When the here and the now dwell in you, you have found peace and the innate ability to cultivate a life where wishes and goals are fulfilled without resistance.  And that is the beauty of Surrender. Happy New Year!

Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step. ~Martin Luther King, Jr.

Are you willing to make these 5 things be part of your New Year’s resolution plan? Share your insights by commenting bellow or by posting your lovely comment on the PurposeFairy Facebook Page. And if you’ve enjoyed reading this post, feel free to share it with your loved ones.

This article was written by Paulina Brooks. Paulina is passionate about life and has spent over 20 years committed to ongoing self-healing and transformation; she is also a writer, blogger and the founder ofAJourneyHome.org, an online community dedicated to helping veterans and their loved ones heal from the silent wounds of war.  She currently resides between Los Angeles, California and Viña del Mar, Chile with her husband of 15 years, David. You can interact with Paulina via email:pdattwylerbrooks@Facebook.com

Ten Things Your Zodiac Sign Hates

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Ten Things Your Zodiac Sign Hates

Each member of the zodiac sign has it's own pet peeves and annoyances. Here is a breakdown of the top ten things that drive each zodiac sign crazy! Aries People that shuffle when they walk Unreturned phone calls Cell phones that don't work Animals in cages People who twitter on online chats People who don't get right to the point People who are lousy dancers Late trains, planes or airplanes People who dress too casually Country music Taurus People who brag too much Mess and disorganization Clothing that is torn or missing buttons Bad cooks Being ignored in public Public speaking People who don't wear deodorant Being the butt of humor or practical jokes Not being smart or as an intellectual Fast food Gemini People without a sense of humor Not constantly being the center of attention Broken clocks and watches Bad wine Shoes that you can't dance in People who talk slowly People that walk too slow Pessimistic individuals Addicted people Broken technology Cancer Too much heat Itchy wool Having to sleep on the couch People who show up early People who are bad or sloppy dressers Being criticized in any way Violent movies Ungrateful children Losing their sunglasses People who steal the spotlight Leo People who dress better than them People with better cars than them Being ignored Being provoked to jealousy Being too cold Being too wet Being forced to go to church Being trapped inside on a sunny day Being told to slow down Being told they can't flirt Virgo People who are messy or disorganized People who do not return calls People who don't wear watches People who don't do their taxes People who don't return memos Wasting time on Facebook People who use bad grammar People who swear too much Emotional confrontations or scenes Stand up comedians Libra People who tell them to turn down the music People who look down at junk food Litter in parks People who steal flowers People who are cruel to animals People who do not return calls One night stands Bad haircuts People who abuse drugs Parents who discipline children Scorpio People who borrow their pen and never return it Lovers that don't orgasm Being made jealous by a lover Being outshone at any task Dining without dignity Being the victim of gossip Being accused of being unfaithful (even if they are) People who are too trendy People who claim to be psychic Not being able to park in the handicapped space Sagittarius Late trains, planes, or automobiles Not flying first class Companions who get seasick People who complain too much People who are afraid to take risks Being accused of being bad with money People who expect them to be on time Lost luggage Animal abuse Reading about human rights violations Capricorn People who waste money People who ask for loans People who do not pay back loans People who do not discipline their children Contractors that do not keep promises People who leave the cap off the toothpaste Poetry readings Being asked to be a chauffeur Being asked to leave the kids at home Bad haircuts Aquarius People who dress in a boring way Junk food Talking about the past Psychiatrists Gossip Those that aren't practical People who don't pick up after their pets A lack of loyalty Being the third wheel to a couple Getting their hands dirty Pisces Places that are too hot Losing their sunglasses Polluted water People who laugh too loud People who walk away from arguments Alcoholics Being denied access to grandchildren Having to wear prescription glasses Cars that waste energy Slow drivers

Gemini Woman

The Gemini woman has her feet on the ground, until she's distracted, then everything falls apart quite quickly.

An exciting kind of woman, she wants to know exactly what's going on.

Good with her hands, she's not always so good with her head, and in fact can be quite scatty at times. Bright eyed and bushy tailed, she'll survey the picture in front of her, with a questioning glance.

Once she's extracted what she needs, she'll dart off to the next project to see what's new and curious there too.

She changes her opinions so often that she seems unreliable, and she becomes anxious and indecisive when forced to make a choice. This woman likes to keep her options open. Her spirits flag if she's pinned down to one response.

At work she's the great communicator. She needs change, options and free space to move fast, and think even faster. Give her an abstract problem and she'll reduce it to a workable plan in double quick time, in fact give her two as she likes more than one project to be on the go, otherwise she gets bored.

She has a restless energy and can be charmingly persuasive. She could sell coals to Newcastle, never mind take them there.

She likes a quick return for her efforts so her tasks need to be short and to the point. She's likely to become impatient and irritable if it's even suggested she keeps her nose to the same old grindstone.

Given half the chance she's the one who'll keep the workplace buzzing with jokes, general gossip and, above all, fresh ideas.

In love this woman has a sparkle in her eyes. While she keeps her mind on her partner, her active imagination could be a million miles away.

The way to this woman's heart is to stimulate her mind. Engage her curiosity continually and she'll look for more. Depress her or stifle her and she'll look elsewhere. Provide her with a home she can re-decorate often, fill her kitchen with gadgets and she might be interested enough to stay.

She will be in a rush for her children to grow up quickly because she communicates better with people who answer her back. As a mother she'll provide her children with lots of information. She strives to be a friend as well as a mother and she succeeds.

At times she even turns the relationship on its head by becoming like a child herself as the Gemini woman, being the sign of youth, doesn't like to grow up too quickly.

The Gemini woman grows when she learns to adjust to the needs of others. Her many-sided mind can help her to see where feelings might be more important than thoughts. It's then she's at her most inventive when providing solutions.

For this woman to thrive, each day has to have its exciting element. She has to scan every horizon for a new discovery. It's only then she's at peace within the boundaries of her busy world.

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